No, counseling is definately out. The two teenagers graduate in less than a year and a half. I keep thinking that if I can just hold on, maybe things will start to fix themselves when it's just back to us and just one smaller child. But at the same time the old adage of "a leopard can't change his spots", makes me wonder if things will ever change. I can't put the blame for everything solely on him. When we had children, I became a responsible parent who puts my kids first. For him, he didn't change, he's still just a big kid. He loves us, provides for us, and for the most part would do anything for us. But the day to day, normal parental responsibility escapes him. We go out to eat and my first thought is: what can the kids eat here? We go to a movie: what will the kids like? Maybe I go overboard, but on the other hand, he's exactly the opposite. He wants what he wants, when he wants it, and totally oblivious of anyone and everyone else. It's not that he's being mean. It's just that he has no sensitivity towards others wishes, thoughts or opinions. Again, he's totally oblivious!