...mmmm... ok...Nawh, you're not losing your mind - just feels that way. Have you ever heard of having your cake & eating it too? That's what your husband is doing. Your husband wants both, and he doesn't want to lose either of you. He can't really have her all the way since she has a husband, so he has you and your child inbetween. I wanted to venture and say he probably even loves both of you; however, when you mentioned that he said he wants you to "stick around" and see if he could eventually love you ...well... that is total horse s h i t! He sounds like an all around liar liar pants on fire - longterm hidden gf, married you and took vows stating he loves you even though he states now he doesn't, in love with someone else. I say WFT. Why waste more minute on this toad? You are definitely not crazy. Leave. What's the point if he doesn't love you? Care about you he said? He mighta thought about that before marrying you WHILE in love with someone else - now that's crazy & not very "caring". He probably doesn't want to get divorced and have to pay allamony & child support.