I am sorry you are in this situation. It must be really tough. Really indeed your husband is wanting you both, while I can totally understand you don't want that. At the same time, you may love him and be unable to just leave becuas eof your child too. You are totally right not taking the bullcrap from him that you should stick aroudn and wait if he gets to love you. That's a totally unfair expectation. I don't hav emuch advice fo ryou but I wanted to validate your feelings.