Well, I can only speak for myself and how I have experienced PC so far. Any time someone asks for help it is often a very difficult thing for them to do. And there are all differnt kinds of cries for help. And a lot depends on the disorder or issue someone is dealing with Ygrec23.

Personally, I have a "LOT" of experience with children and even their parents. And I have even raised a child with a learning disability. So in all my years of dealing with children I have had to learn the many different ways someone can ask for help.

Now in my experience I could see facial expressions, even in my own personal history of experiencing abuse. But here in PC, we can't really see that so it can be challenging because all we can see are written expressions of that person. And it can be very challenging to see the cry for help. Sometimes a cry for help can be in a direct way or in a very indirect way. And it can even come from someone who may seem to be extremely intelligent and even scholarly by nature. And it takes time to set one's self aside and really think about what some people say.

For example, my father is an extremly intelligent man and very scholarly. And he can be very difficult to converse with on certain levels. And he really knows alot about almost everything to an extreme detail. And my father is often a man who, if not in a group of extremely intelligent scholarly people, may be seen quiet and off to the side of a room just observing and even in his own world sometimes. And I witnessed years to the present where my mother and father have great difficultly sitting at dinner and just having a casual chat. There is mostly just silence. And I have been trying to educate my poor mother on how to talk to my father for a very long time until the present. And there is a secret to it and one has to be willing to listen to long explainations of many different ways to view a simple question. (that might have rubbed off on me lol) But my father is not immune to struggle and he never really directly asks for assistance. And some may form the wrong opinion of my father as being a puffed up know it all, when in reality his is not. In reality, he is an extremely empathetic thoughtful person. But he can also be often in his own world of extreme contemplation.

Each person is so unique in their need for direction that it can be challenging not only for them to know what help they are trying to ask for but also what answer they really need. But the one thing most people need to know first and foremost is that they are not alone and someone else is experiencing the same kind of difficulty. And there is always a why and a how and even, am I even worth the effort.

So all the different methods that you are pointing out can be useful and can apply and serve a purpose. And it is twofold because the people that come forward to answer a question (Especailly here) are also experiencing their own difficulties and sometimes all that person can do is give a short reply or just do the best they can to acknowledge someone in need.

And it has nothing to do with selling or marketing yourself to others in this paticular atmosphere. Because the most important thing most people that come here have to learn is "HOW TO BUY AND INVEST IN AND OWN THEMSELVES"as well as "HOW TO REPAIR OR HEAL THEMSELVES" or even find ways to "IMPROVE THEMSELVES IN SPITE OF THEIR PERSONAL STRUGGLE" myself included. And that is what, HELP, HOW, WHY, I NEED, is really asking even by the ones that are not directly asking that question and may stand alone in a room like my father.

I did post a last reply to your last thread, I hope you read it and this might help you understand my reasoning for that post.

In order for a person to market themselves to others effectively?
A person has to "MARKET TO THEMSELVES FIRST" so to speak.
And the interaction that takes place in an environment like this is about reaching out while learning about yourself and helping others learn to do the same. And because we are all so unique and on top of that there are so many different variations of struggles, there are going to be a variation of questions and answers and lengths of those interactions.

In my own personal way of using PC, I vary in my responses depending on the question or concern. But I will admit that my experience of working with children who often require a lot of explanation, shows in the way I answer questions. And I do try to tell someone me too as well because I have also done that with children and they really responded to that and I know I respond to that too when I hear someone say they experienced something too. And personally I have had to come up with a lot of different ways to convince a child to have confidence to put forth an effort so I do read questions and concerns and I answer them and can almost hear that "yes but in the back of my mind". So often I will add in anticipation of that. It is one of my habits and sometimes it is very effective.

Hey, if I learned how to talk to my dad, that was an accomplishment.

Well that is just some of my thoughts. But fair warning, I may come back and add.

Open Eyes