I have a couple thoughts. In all honesty there are few here that offer quantitative help for me... I have a psych degree, been in therapy for 17 years, have offered support to many in many different ways, read a LOT (perhaps too much). Sometimes I get frustrated by that but... don't take it personally, most T's have struggled with me and my desire for quantitative support. BUT... when I look at the thread in what ever forum I look first at the number of times it was read... the number of people that cared enough to give of their time to read my ramblings. And, weather or not it is what I want to hear, weather or not it is helpful, even weather or not a reply even makes sense to what I was saying... it is a tangible attempt at care... a hug of thoughtfulness of sorts. AND it isn't all about me. I may be the one to put words to it and reach out... I don't know how many are out there experiencing something similar but can't put it out there. An answer may not work for me but it may help one of our "silent members" who has the same experience. And... then there are the guests as well. Last but not least is the person responding. So many of us here struggle with feeling like leeches... always needing more help, always needing more support... Being able to reply to a message or even to "thank" a message or a reply is an important opportunity to give back. So... while I may not like some of the replies, I may not get anything out of some of the replies I fully believe ALL replies are necessary and beneficial.