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My husband and I have been having problems in our relationship due to my inattentiveness. However it seems that there are other emotional problems that he needs to address, and I really don't know how to help him. He believes that he doesn't have any friends/people in his life that care about him, including me. He has tried to reach out to a few people to talk, but he has discovered that some of his friends aren't very supportive or sympathetic to his needs.This has unfortunately caused him to be reluctant to talk with others about himself and problems that he does not believe people will care about. He has very low self-esteem, energy, or interest in anything for the last few months. I really don't know how to help him. He is not interested in therapy and has been getting progressively more upset when people tell him that it is the solution to his problems. He has been telling me that he can't deal with me or feeling this way any longer and has said that he wished he were dead. He blames me and our poor relationship for feeling consistently horrible and for ruining his life. I fail to see how my difficulties with our relationship and shortfalls as a person have prevented him from caring for himself properly, going to work, or any number of simple things around the house. However, I have found no benefit in arguing with him at this point. Being defensive always makes the problems much worse and more awkward. I am very worried and have been looking for help from our friends and anywhere else possible.
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