I'm 24 years old and I desperately need help to free myself from this destruction. Please help me understand to how to finally let go and walk away from my abusive father which is an alcoholic. All my life I've taken on the role as protecting my siblings and my mother from being beaten by him. I try so hard to do what I can to not let his drunkness affect all of us. People have told me that I should just let go and let my parents fight and beat on each other because their problems has nothing to do with me. The more I get involved the more hurt I become and I've only wasted my time because my parents have shown that they dont want to change. At this moment in time I've been dignoased with partial complex seizures and more then ever I need the support from people. Just a week ago my dad had gotten drunk again and was about to hit my mother. I heard her scream and as she ran outside of the house I ran back inside to make sure she's okay. Before I knew it as I was trying to get my dad to calm down he was just about to beat me over the head with his glass beer bottle. Just two weeks ago I was in the hospital because of my seizures. How do I stop caring and not to get involved anymore. At this moment in time I can't leave home because of money and transportation. My doctor is advising me and not allowing me to drive right now or work either. Everyone has told me that i need to stop caring and not to get involved anymore. I know that my mom lives in denial and to this day she can't admit to me that dad has ever beaten her. I know that she doesn't appreciate the many times I ran out to protect her from my dad. I know that my parents blame me for everything it is their way to distrack themselves from really dealing with the real problems. I need to focus on myself and take care of myself but how do i when I need to live with such destruction. I feel so trapped. Someone please help me better understand what does it mean to finally let go and accept for what has been done. How do i give myself closure and a resolution when my parents continue to believe that they haven't done anything wrong.
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