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Hello, hopefully I am in the right area. I need help. I have been with my boyfriend less than six months but have known his for about a year and am noticing that his jealousy is getting out of hand. I am a very loyal, non-cheating individual. I don't believe in it and I don't believe in flirting either if you are with someone and I am very honest although as much as I stress this and also my friends and family as well (considering my family thought I would also make a great Nun) nothing changes his comments or accusations. Constantly when we are driving, he asks if I am looking at this person or that person when I'm not because I could care less, every day before he leaves or when I do, he tells me I better not be messing or talking to any guys, and suggests I would like certain men sexual better, and cheating, and on and on. It's really getting to me and I don't appreciate his suggesting that I would do these sexual things and desecrate my body to some of these things. It just disgusts me and I don't know how to get through to him that I am just not like that. To me, it's morally wrong to cheat and lie but I am constantly being consumed by his future and imagined accusations. It's interesting that most individuals trust their spouse or partner but yet a good portion end up cheating on each other although when an individual finds someone that is truly loyal they treat them as if they were cheating and accuses them of betrayal and lying. It just baffles me that whatever I say or do will never change his jealousy. I am getting pretty burnt out. I feel sad, I feel the need to hide my body and I am embarrassed about his imagined sexual accusations. Because I work in the public as a young librarian, I feel on edge when speaking with men. My boyfriend can also try to be controlling as well even though I am a very independent career woman. Any advice would be appreciated. I need help. Thank you.
Sincerely, Grace
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