Oh wow, this is a tough one. Although I do not think that people can just stop caring about one another, I do think there is help out there for families that live with the horrible effects of alcoholism.

Try to see if you can't start going to Al-Anon meetings in your area. They usually have the meetings listed in your local newspaper. I'm sure you can also look online for meetings. Getting a therapist would be very helpful, also.

I think those are the two most important steps you can take right now. Another option could be looking for a women's shelter. I don't know what the policies are on them, but I'm sure they would offer you shelter from the abusive situation for awhile.

Try to hang in there and be kind to yourself.