When I respond, I simply tell the truth in what I see. If the poster isn't looking for honesty then I'm fine with that. The poster can and will find someone to share and reinforce their view and tell them what they want to hear. That won't help in the long run but apparently it does what the poster was hoping it would do.
If what I say rubs the "compassionate" and the "wise" the wrong way then I'm fine with that too.