i have been to a lot of therapists, but it seems like a lot i have had, haven't been very helpful. if i select a therapist what kind of background should i need them to have? i know all therapists come from different field of thought.

how can you gauge if one is going to make you feel comfortable?

i never feel comfortable opening up all the way to therapists so far. i guess it serves me right though

just fyi: and you only have to read this if you think knowing my background will help:

basically growing up was a complicated. i was a lower priority foster kid. the parents would prioritize their biological children.

i actually have done pretty well, but cant get over one thing. all my life i was told i was mean. i am NOT mean i am actually really altruistic. as a kid though i would get exhasperated when my feelings were ignored and i have to admit as a kid i did have reasons to be angry.

but im not a MEAN person. i never have been. why do i still get afraid of being my natural self? am i really mean? its hard to be compassionate when everyone around you fights like mad. i can be judgemental at times its true. i can be pessimistic but i try very hard not to be

but yeah i've become a walled up kind of a person in some ways. and i know its not good, but i dont know how not to be. my current therapist isn't very helpful but i think she expects me to sit with my thoughts and come to my own conclusions, when i really need feedback from her, its a confusing time in my life

i just want to be gauged.. sigh i hate looking for therapists. if i get a new therapist what kind of therapist should i get?

i wish i could find a therapist that believes the less you overthink things, the better off you will be. it seems when i don't overthink things everything certainly gets better.

do you think there therapists who could approach that sort of notion similarly?