IceCreamKid, I hear where you are coming from--and I have always resisted being the stereotypical "helicopter mom," which is obnoxious at best and destructive at worst. I haven't intruded into the interplay between them at all, actually, but this young man was a big part of our entire family for nearly four years, so there's obviously an independent relationship that was developed beyond theirs. Because of his chaotic home situation, he did rely on us for support. Having said all that, I take your words seriously. No way should a parent involve themself in the romantic dalliances of their adult children.