Abuse has a tendency to resonate in the core of our beings,and very much seems to surface again and again,depending on our circumstance..(ie,current level of stress,and sometimes in response to triggers)..at the time.I honestly don't know that anyone 'gets over it' I think different people cope using different tactics.Some,repress....assuming if they 'don't think of it,it can't impact them'.(Kinda like hiding under the covers when we feared there was something scary "out there" as children).Some,attend counseling ...perhaps like dbt....in a process of gathering feedback on the turmoil/pain which is 'harshing their peace' for lack of a better expression,and to gain 'coping skills' for the turbulent times.Life is complicated,and has waves of stressful periods,and then can have serene periods,where we are 'fine'.If you have some type of core trauma,or things which you need to 'work through' with a trained individual who can guide/assist your process,so that you can locate a peace within that allows you to be freer in the present moments......I would push for counseling to bring resolution to your suffering.The difficulty is that while others would love to heal you and can support you in this process,it is a series of new skills that need some structure that ultimately help you feel better consistently.You CAN learn DBT at home via computer or book....the truth is,when we are feeling sooo low...who the heck 'feels like' getting out the door to a therapy/counseling appt.,but you may need to support yourself via a therapist or counselor during your process of healing.But it is essential that we fight through the crowd of feelings/thoughts which all stand in the way of us getting 'help'.It's like going to work,eating,showering....all essential to our well-being.The process is slow,and results certainly seem slow,and at times non-existent,but never the less....require a commitment.You deserve to find a peace,a method of coping,life IS difficult,DOES hold reasons that we are in pain,and must be attended to,as one would bandage a wound.I wish it were as simple as 'get over it'....even when we think we have 'won' over our baggage....it seeps back in under the door and pervades our peace...at the most inopportune times.Can you google DBT ?There is soooo much available for you to dive into and find new coping skills.Please don't fall to the deceptive thoughts of....I'm weak....I need to 'get over it'.Your mind has considered a most final action and that screams for you to show yourself some compassion in this very painful time of your life.Healing will be ongoing...in that it will require a lifetime commitment of you paying attention to 'where you're at', and what you can do to make 'whatever you are going through 'at this moment' more bearable.In a sense...maintenance of your peace....whatever that entails.You aren't weak for not "getting over it"........"Weak" is not facing that something inside is hurting you.And the reason it is weak....is because it keeps you stuck.Like stagnant water.Huggs....Please go easy on you in this painful time.~W~