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Originally Posted by arcangel
When I respond, I simply tell the truth in what I see. If the poster isn't looking for honesty then I'm fine with that. The poster can and will find someone to share and reinforce their view and tell them what they want to hear. That won't help in the long run but apparently it does what the poster was hoping it would do.
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I'm with you, arcangel. T may have to tell them what they don't want to hear. I don't think that's our job as fellow members of PC who are neither professionals nor in a professional setting. If someone arrives in bad shape, as many of course do, what they need at that instant can be very different indeed from what they may need from T six months later. In a sense, PC is more related to an ER than to a T's office. And a long distance ER where all we have to go on is what the newby has to say for themselves.
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If what I say rubs the "compassionate" and the "wise" the wrong way then I'm fine with that too.
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Why would you anticipate a "wrong way" response? Is there a "wrong way" response when providing verbal comfort and support to someone in distress? Other than the "brutalities" that someone has already mentioned in this thread and ruled out, I would think that almost anything goes. No?
Take care.
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