I've got a long road ahead I guess. I've been reading a little about therapy styles for adult survivors of emotional abuse. Basically everything is just about a lot of work. I have to undo what my stupid parents did. I also have been working hard to break the cycle with my kids, but that was for obvious things I knew about. Now I'm touching on things I don't even know are there yet, so I've already messed up as a father (especially for my 11 year old. My 4 year old still has time for me to fix things). I really worked hard to break the cycle of putting down my kids/blaming them like my father did, but I don't know about other things that may be hurting them. This really is a lot to take in. My next T appointment is later this week, so we'll see how I can work on processing things, but it doesn't just happen in one session.