How to repair yourself and break the mold? By reminding yourself that you are than what you can give others, more than how they perceive you, more than your past experiences, more than your current situation. These are things that have shaped who you are, but you are much more than that. You are also your thoughts, your feelings, your interests and aspirations. Who were you before you had all these responsibilities? Do you still have the same interests? Different ones? The self never stops developing, but it does sometimes get submerged. Getting back in touch with yourself might make being accepted by others less important to you.

Anyway, that's what I have been trying to do for the last couple of years. I've had some success, but still have a ways to go. Best of luck to you.