Rayna, Do you remember Bama?
Do you remember her falling madly in love with some guy? Do you remember her telling us that the sun and stars rose and fell on his behind alone?

I am not saying you are her, but be careful, be real careful. More drunks go back out over love gone wrong than you can shake a stick at. My advice, for what it is worth, is leave him the hell alone. If he is going to break it off with the other woman, then let him do it without any help from you.

It has been my experience that men almost never leave their wives for the other woman. Yea they hold hands and play patty cake, but they don’t throw a wife and kids in the dumper for the girlfriend. And if they do break it off with the wife, the girlfriend may have been the catalyst for that change, but she usually isn’t the recipient of this newly available guy. She helped him to break off a bad relationship, but some other girl gets him.

Rayna, I think the world of you, I really do, and I am only telling you my experiences in the hope that you won’t get hurt. Let him and her settle out whatever is going on between them alone. It is the rare woman, in your position that comes out the winner.

Let me tell you a short story… I was very unhappy in a marriage some years ago. And this really terrific woman came into my life. She understood me, and made me feel special. We had a passionate love affair, and in the process, I left my wife.

I am married now, to a wonderful woman, two kids a dog and a mortgage. The woman I married is not the woman I was seeing when I left my first wife. My story isn’t unusual at all. Be careful, I don’t want to see you get hurt. And I don’t want to see a broken heart threaten your sobriety.

Richard