I would be concerned only because this seems to interrupt your daily life and basic relationships. Normally I don't have an issue with fetishes or just overall getting your rocks off on something "abnormal" but this sounds to have really taken control over your life. The fact that you have started wetting the bed is what really concerns me.

I totally agree with talking it through with a therapist. After so long of being IN the behavior and not being accepted for it by outsiders, it's good to hear that professional opinion. Also, if he/she doesn't see this as an issue, they may know sites or organizations where people with common interests/fetishes get together (i.e. specialty dating site).

As for what "normal" is? Your guess is as good as mine. Take a "normal" family. Parents, 3.2 kids and a dog. However, I know 2 people who aren't from a divorced home. Most of my friends either only have a sibling or like 5-6 siblings. Most of my friends have cats.....NOT dogs lol. Me....my parents were divorced when I was 6. Then remarried when I was 10ish. Dad divorced again when i was 17 and remarried again when I was 22. I still keep in touch with my "ex"step-mom and siblings while another sibling lives in GA and doesn't speak to anyone..........is that normal enough for ya? haha (hope my Jerry Springer family makes you feel a little less crazy)