If anything Ygre23 what you did do is see that you made an error. And you provided an example in that you didn't just feel hurt and abandoned by others and yourself and "RUN". And many people do just that, they make a statement, it is misunderstood depending on the struggle of another and sometimes both just "RUN" and opt out of PC. And that is not working through a personal struggle and trying to learn and improve. And in the struggle with any diagnoses that conveys a disorder,
there is often many ways a person can be misunderstood not only by others but themselves.

If anything what your thread did unintentionally is provide an example of how one can be misunderstood and how others can be very offended. And one thing about having any kind of disorder or issue is that people who struggle are often very misunderstood by others and even themselves. I can definitely raise my hand on that one.

When I came here, I was misunderstood and hurt by that, because I was also being misunderstood outside PC, even confused myself about my issue. And JD helped me a lot with that and she has pointed it out in your other thread. Some are 8 years old and some are 5 and at different stages on the road and some are further ahead on that road than others, and it doesn't make one better than the other, they are just at different points on the road.

Now it is understood that your intention was more about how a person might receive better help or more attention by thinking about what that person can put up as the heading of a thread. And you did receive a mixed reaction to that suggestion. But what really happened is that everyone revisited that road and where each person is on that road and what it means to be on that road. And there can be many times that someone may get hurt and misunderstood and think about "running" and that they don't deserve to be on any road. Well here we see that is just not true, everyone deserves to be on that road and take steps in whatever way they can or even have to stop and think about the steps they have taken and what it means.

I would say that not all threads are going to be answered, no matter what the heading is. Many times people are so busy on their own road they might not see the sign of another. And it doesn't mean the sign wasn't important or catchy enough, all it means is that we are in a place where people are struggling to understand what their personal struggle means and it is always very challenging.

If anything both of your threads have given members a reminder that we are in a place where many people truely struggle and it is very important to try to respect that and truely keep it in mind. This is a road that many are traveling and all are struggling and it is all around the world.

You have admitted some things yourself Ygre23. Are some overly judgemental, maybe so, but we do have to consider that it may just be a part of their personal struggle. And it may be something that person has yet to recognise and learn. But we also have to consider the source
and that can be very challenging indeed. I can see that you are an intelligent person, someone who did not have the ability to socialize for whatever reason, but you were misunderstood by others and yourself, you have learned something and are open to learning more. That is a good example of how to "DO THE WORK" that many often say has to be done to heal and improve one's self.

One of the messages I look for is when someone is conveying their faults. That is a very important part of each persons journey to bettering themselves. And as I have said, sometimes it is almost a whisper from that person. And because I have had a lot of my own whispers ever since I can remember, I do hear the whispers, I do understand the struggle. And I have worked with a lot of children that are beginning their whispers, I have even worked with horses and other animals that have their whispers. And I DO know that if those whispers are addressed properly, there is room for a tremendous amount of growth. For me, it is something I have actually seen take place, it is not just and invisible thing that can be a blind faith. Especially with horses that have come to me abused in some way, often I don't even get to hear a history, I am only presented with the way the horse reacts to different situations. And because that horse cannot talk I have to really think about what their body language is saying, very difficult.
And each horse, like each human is very unique. And I can say with real experience that in each case it takes a lot of time and patience but these animals can learn to overcome. Well, if an animal whose brain is the size of a walnut can do it, surely a human can learn to do the same.

I may have repeated some thoughts here, I can do that, but it can be re-enforcing for both me and another member to ponder and find reason to hang in there and let themselves progress and be at ease with the process as you have stated this is something new. When something is in writing it is there to revisit and think about something we have said and if makes sense and is fair and respectful of others.

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