Warning: about to judge the man you claim to love AND I feel like a hypocrite.

Holy crap. Holy crap. Holy crap!!!!!! Can we swear on here? ... this man (and I use the term man as loosely as is possible)... is the poster child of a LOSER. I hate him for you. You do not need to defend him as I know what you are going through. I am going through it too - right now. I even have the same problem of extremely close proximity.

It's hard... to figure out what is making us feel we are weak or deserve such s hit . We do NOT deserve this horrible, less than sub-human treatment.

Think about how you feel when he cuts you off & hangs up on you - by doing that he is saying that you mean so little to him that you are not even worth listening to... That the hamburger he is stuffing into his ugly mug at the time is worth more to him than you are. Does he kick the dog too as he walks by I wonder? He is feeding off upsetting you. You are getting nothing out of this except pain and wasting your time. Your one life that you get to live and be happy - wasting it on this soul sucker.

He does not deserve to be called a man. He is a mean, angry, hateful individual that learned to use other people for his own whims and amusement. Before I came to this site I did not know what a Narcissist was. I think you'd better look it up. It will bring you GREAT comfort! This is not your fault and there is NOTHING you can do to make him better.

We forgive people when an illness causes bad behavior but when the behavior becomes a constant, accepted norm, without any attempt at reform or regret, then what is there to forgive? Save yourself and your children. Your son will treat women the way this guy is treating you if you do not teach him it is wrong.

All the drama he is manufacturing in your life, controlling you, making you cry, disrespecting you, outright hating you... think about it THINK about it, what is there to love? Just turn your back to it and walk away. Think about how exciting it is to have a new life to look forward to. The opportunity to find a real man that will love you truly. To have fun and laugh and make love and play and SMILE again!

I believe that you believe you love him. I understand that so much it hurts and I hate to admit it.... but here's the eye opener... do they love us??????? No. They love to abuse us - it's what gets them off - constant conflict makes 'em hard. Let's choose to take our lives back. It's frickin' scary as hell I know.

Run and don't look back and we'll all be here to hold your hand when you're feeling like you're gonna break. Let's save each other.