This is a tough situation. I can't tell you what to do really as you have to decide this fo ryourself. Maybe it's an idea to play with the baby together when you're at Sara's. If your relationship is serious enough, the baby will have to accept you as a surrogate father so it is quite good if you learn to bond with the baby. (I know this is hard after a relationship of less than a year.). As for spending time togehter or on the phone or E-mail, does she say why she doesn't contact you as much anymore, other than being busy? You could explain to her that while her parents, her child and her work are important, so are you. I hope she will respect that. Good luck.