Dating as a single parent is complicated. I know lots of people who have been through it, and have dated someone with children but ultimately realized that I am in no shape to be a parent myself, and that we were at completely different stages in life. That honesty was the best thing for both of us.

At this point, this young woman has a baby to take care of. Of course she shouldn't feel like she has to be alone in life because she now has a child, that would be silly. But at this critical stage, the baby requires a lot of attention, and perhaps that's where her attention should be going (?), especially since her parents are currently caring for it.

The things you have described seem to say that you don't know her very well, perhaps have only been dating a short time. Is that correct? If so, it's pretty early in the game to be torn about things. You said yourself that you are ignoring red flags. Ask yourself why, and whether your emotional need for a relationship is worth the negative emotional reward of this particular relationship. Do what is best for yourself.

I hate to say it, but she might also see you as a way out of her situation. She's talking to you when she needs to talk, and frankly with everything going on, she probably doesn't have time or energy to reciprocate your efforts, whether or not she has any intention of using you (I'm not making that assumption, just to be clear). Do you believe that she is mentally and emotionally ready to have a serious relationship, and to be part of the partnership that you truly desire? She's doing everything on her time and her terms. Let her sort out her own problems and be in a place where she is sure of herself. She's in a position of instability, and that's not a healthy place for you to start.

I realize you began your post by asking people to not tell you to run away from this situation. Just be logical and honest about it.