Well, i for one want to say this must be hard to talk about with most people, and so i commend you on being brave enough to really talk about it. I don't think there is anything wrong with what you did, but i do feel he (having a wife and family) should not have let it go that far.There is also forum on this site that deals with this particular issue and they may be more equipped to help, so you may try there as-well. If I'm hearing you correctly your main concern is the mood swings? I suppose if that is the case i would recamend you speak to your pdoc about possibly changing some meds since i think maybe you might be in a mixed episode.