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Originally Posted by ACanthony
Thank you 
When I do go over the house, I do play with the baby. But the baby is very spoiled. She cries whenever she doesn't get something she wants. She constantly wants to run around the house and most of Sara's time is spent catering towards this baby. I don't mind being 'surrogate father' or even accepting those responsibilities.
Also, Sara's parents speak little English. There is a communication barrier. We can communicate but they chose for the most part to speak their native language and most of the time, I just don't know what's going on. So while I don't mind travelling the distance to get to Sara, my time there is spent dealing with a crying child, sitting there awkwardly because the parents aren't very talkative, and also due to her job/child, when Sara and I are 1 on 1 she just wants to cuddle and not talk anyways because she is tired. |
It is very interesting indeed to me that you say in the above post "the baby is very spoiled. She cries whenever she doesn't get anything she wants."
Obviously you haven't studied infant psychology, raised a child of your own, or been around infants in a caring capacity, or you would know that all babies of a year old behave in this way, unless there is something very wrong. The only way in which a baby can communicate a need is to cry. A year old baby who didn't cry when hungry, lonely, bored, teething, anxious, sleepy, etc, would not be a healthy baby. Being spoiled has nothing to do with it.
I suspect that there is a little bit of resentment on your part that the child is demanding. You have to accept that the child will be demanding. She's a year old baby. That's what they do.
It seems that the situation is very complicated, for both you and "Sarah", and you need to think seriously about what you can do. You need to educate yourself not just on relationship issues, but also on parental issues, so that you will understand how infants are supposed to behave, without imposing a value judgement (eg, "spoiled") onto a normal situation.