If you are both being honest, how about saying "T, you're being more assertive or directive with me, and I miss your "warmth". Telling her how you feel about the changes is part of being totally honest, isn't it?

I suppose she thinks you can "take it" now, whereas before you weren't ready. But, is she really not "warm" anymore? I think there's a middle ground. I think a T can be confrontational and push you, but still be "warm". They don't seem like contradictions to me.