now that i know about "nurturing" (thanks to a thread a few weeks ago ) I wonder if it's that part that is missing as far as the warmth? it seems to be more easy to identify it when someone is listening and you are talking; now you have a deeper relationship and more open honest exchange going on between you and I'm sure the care is still there but the nature of the exchange is lacking part of what it used to provide (and you need/want still) ... have you tried rainbows suggestion of letting your T know that you think it's missing?