Hi Visioneer,

I can relate to your dilemma. It sounds like you understand your dad quite well. Fighting fire with fire obviously doesn't work with these people. You are an adult now and he has always been a child who will take his ball home if you don't play by his rules. So you just don't play with him. You have to find ways to work around him to get your needs met and remove yourself from his presence as much as possible. You have to shut out his crazy making behavior. Good luck with the party.