Hmm. You want the warmth from her, but do you give it to her? No, you give her resistance. I am betting, if anybody needs lessons in warmth and loving and giving and risking, it's me, not my T. He does keep the love coming, but I don't think I could ever talk to him like you say above. I kind of panic even reading it, I think my mother is going to suddenly appear out of nowhere and give you whatfor for the backtalk! I am getting out of the way! Hope you resolve this with your T. I'm sure the love is still there.