You need to start learning how to control your emotions & not act on them. Use your rational mind when it comes to relations & keep your emotional mind there for after you get to know them & if they are worth bringing your emotional mind into the picture.

Practice, practice, & constantly keep thinking about being in control of yourself.....you are the only one who can control the slowness & guarantee that it goes slow no matter what. When you feel an uncomfortable feeling, don't let it keep going, STOP at that point. Always remember you are the one that needs to be in control of YOUR LIFE & no one else especially at this point in your life.