Hey Soup. Part of the problem for me with T (I went back, which was totally self-destructive, btw), was that after not telling for so long, telling got harder and more things stacked up, and then, the relationship was impaired. That's where I went wrong in therapy and I can own that in a big way. I blew it. I should have been much more forthright about how badly I was faring, how much the actual therapy hurt, and I didn't, and then, it got so bad that...there was little left to salvage. If I've learned anything lately, it's SAY NO EARLY, and disclose more often once it feels safe. And if it doesn't feel safe, then that is its own answer. I'm not saying it's always T's fault (though in my case, I think he contributed) but it's still its own answer.