Hey SoupDragon...

I've had to have that discussion and although really scary, I'm so glad that I did. It allows me now to be much more honest with him. I still hide my wounds and sometimes we talk about it and sometimes we don't. He usually just knows because of the honesty, my patterns, and how I wear my clothes or jewelry. It does help because you can also work on a plan to give you a list of options of who to call or what to do when you are stepping beyond stopping the pain... and stepping in to going somewhere else. It is a fine line, but I believe we know even in our darkest moments when we are going there and can stop and reach for our action plans..or some extra support and love.

We also were able to come up with some key phrases that let him know when I am reaching my limits of being able to control my behaviour, and as a good T he often just senses it as well. I think your T will honour the fact that your trust him now and have come to him openly and want to set a pattern of honesty and openess for the future. and a plan of action so that you don't have to hide from him or yourself.

I hope you will talk to you T and be more open about it so he can help you to heal and find other ways to self-soothe and other answers to dealing with the emotional overloads that hit us. I loved what Sun and some of the others have said... You've gotten some great advice on a very touchy and sensitive topic that doesn't alway get talked about. I think you are very brave and wonderful to have the insight to know that you must be honest with him in the future and need/want help to fight this.

Courageous and empathetic huggles for my very favourite dragon...

WB