Wow. I mean honestly you can make excuses for him and his behavior all you want but the reality is this guy has no respect, morals or from the sounds of it anything good. I think u and your child would be better off having as little contact with him as possible!! Besides the way he is speaking to u, which is horrible, what about your child??? U can preach later on how he should treat women ans people all you want...but how he grows up and what he lives ansd sees- those are the things that ate gonna stay with him. Children ARE sponges. They not only pick up on all the negativity and abuse, but can feel the tension and later on will act out in different ways. I would keep as much distance as you absolutley can from him and concentrate a peaceful life with you and your son.