Talked to the boy's mother on this before discussing it with my nephew. They are very protective of him. Threre have been many a time that he's gotten hurt because of situations like this. Sis told me not to talk to him about being gay and not to use the lesbian word around him... next step,

when I move out I am going to get that shirt that says "maybe your old maid aunt is really a happy lesbian is REAL life" and where it to family function.

Um, I'm gonna go ahead and let this one go. And while I am staying here, I will let it go, but I'm not hiding who I am because they think they are protecting their son.