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Well, your right about not stepping on someones toes by assuming you know their personal need and even struggle. And I do agree with you about that hallmark post, but at the very least it can provide simple acknowledgement of a struggle. And I know for myself, when I first came to PC and was really struggling, that hug or seeing my name in a virtual hug symbol, meant a real lot to me.
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I see. Well, I'm not a huggy or kissy person, or even hot on any kind of intimacy. It all goes back to you know when. So I guess I react negatively to that kind of thing and don't realize other people would find it positive.
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Whenever I address someone else with a different issue I basically talk about the struggle itself and I explain that I too struggle and here is how I have come to a healing process. And I am honest about the fact that I may not know the specifics of how their personal issue presents a specific difficulty for them. However if I had access to a book that was full of different people and how they deal with their disorders and what it means to them personally, perhaps I could assist that person better. When addressing another person who is suffering, VALIDATION is a very important part of healing.
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What is validation, really? I mean, all pain is valid, no? Why do people need to be validated?
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And come to think of it Ygrec23, you may not know on a personal level what I deal with as I don't really know what you deal with on a personal level but I really enjoy our interactions and you have helped me. And I feel I have recognized you in ways that have encouraged you as well.
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Yes you have, and I thank you for it.
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If anything the one area that can prove to be very helpful is giving another person who struggles, RESPECT. And if we are more informed of that personal struggle, that may help us to do that. And it has been proven as we have become more aware of AIDs and other issues that have plagued mankind, knowledge and knowing how those individuals struggle and feel, well, we can find better ways to respect them and support them. Open Eyes
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I agree absolutely with regard to respect. All too many of us feel like some kind of subhuman separate species.
Take care!
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We must love one another or die.
W.H. Auden
We must love one another AND die.
Ygrec23