I know this might be off topic, but it does relate to your above question in a private way to me.

I have my own little farm and I worked really hard to make it special and it did take years of hard work, many things I did on my own, things many women would not consider doing, but I did those things.

I have always been a kind person and mindful of others. I have experienced so many different intrusions and actions of disrespect and even negligence from many of my neighbors that have surprised me, damaged my way of life, and expressed total disregard for my private farm and my boundaries and efforts with training my animals.
And later today they are having a neighborhood picnic and are all getting together and I was invited but I am not going to go and be around these people who really went out of their way to not be nice to me and even invalidate me in ways I could not have imagined.

There is a part of me that would like to go and stand up and point out each person and how they picked on my daughter on the bus for no reason, told others not to be nice to her, did not contain their dogs even after several requests they do so, hear that I was struggling with an alcoholic husband and convinced parents to withdraw their children from my troop of brownies, shun me as I was now not worthy, shoot off fireworks right next to my horses that I work so hard on and train even though it is illegal and they know dangerous and scares my horses and is such a potential for danger, a neighbor the decides to pull apart a stone wall that is on my propery that I have built and he doesn't like, call me a narcissist because I am deeply hurt and weary of socializing and I am depressed and isolating, and even sneaking onto my property and hitting one of my ponies and taking a young thouroughbred mare and putting it into a small paddock with a pony and I come home to a bloody mess, there was no way those animals could have gotten in together by themselves, cutting off the long tails of three ponies up to the end of the tail bone so their tails look terrible,
pushing big rocks into a stream that I spent a whole summer digging out that was over grown and flooding my back land., tearing down no trespassing signs and throwing alcoholic beverage containers onto my land. Those are a few of some not very nice experiences I have been through.

And if I did go and stand up and talk about each person and how that person disrespected and hurt me and how I struggle now, some one else would stand with me and "VALIDATE ALL THAT I HAD SAID, THAT I HAVE EVERY REASON TO FEEL HURT, AND THAT, YES, MY ANIMALS WERE DAMAGED AND I AM VERY HURT AND I NEVER DESERVED ANY OF WHAT I EXPERIENCED FROM ANY OF THEM.

Sorry Ygrec23, but I am not looking forward to tonite and hearing those people laugh and joke and have fun right next to me. And I know I will be alone, do I stay? or do I run like I had so many times in my past?. I don't know to be honest. But it would be nice if one person VALIDATED ME AND STOOD WITH ME IN FRONT OF THEM.

Validation can mean so very much. I hope I am not taking your thread off track, but you did ask a question and I just could not help but answer that one question.

And to be honest, today I feel like Too many triggers in one day for me.

Open Eyes