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Sep 17, 2011, 06:16 PM
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Member Since: Mar 2011
Location: Northeast USA
Posts: 23,288
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Quote:
Originally Posted by SadNJNY
I'm not a victim.
There is no one to blame for where I am and what I've become.
This miserable life of mine is MY creation. I own it. I live it.
How can I possibly forgive or even love myself now?
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But that is where you begin SadNJNY, You must begin by forgiving yourself and loving yourself. No one has a perfect life, we all make mistakes and often blame ourselves. Much of depression has a lot to do with blaming ourselves and not allowing ourselves to grow and learn and accept our mistakes. So often we look for ourselves in others, judge ourselves by how others receive us. Well, that is just not being fair to ourselves
at all. We have to reach into ourselves and make the efforts and that is done EVERY SINGLE DAY AS LONG AS WE LIVE. So what that means is that we have an opportunity to learn new things, love ourselves for what we can learn, and take small steps and find what is in each of us that we can polish and use and even share with others.
Bottom line is that we have to invest in ourselves and it doesn't even matter what color, faith, class we are in, weather we have skin deep beauty or not. None of that really matters in the long run, because it is whatever each of us has that is worth the effort no matter what it is, there is always something there.
I can talk to you in red, until I am red in the face, but the truth is I cannot do it for you, YOU have to do it for YOU.
Open Eyes
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