Asking him to turn it around is an idea... what will you say if he doesn't mind?

You must be in therapy. What does your T say about this? It sounds like you have some sort of deeper insecurity and that you are placing the burden of it on your husband (which isn't fair) to quash this fear inside you. I say this because it sounds as though you believe your husband is not actually doing anything with this over stepping woman but your own fears are causing your anxiey and worries. Usually the fears are so deeply embedded in the fiber of our being that we don't realize they're there or where they're coming from or how they are effecting our behavior, thoughts, and feelings.

Forget the stupid woman all together. Trust your husband - that's really all you can do. Cuz you can't stop anyone from doing anything and without trust you have nothing anyway. Talk to your therapist about Attachment Hunger and how it relates to you.