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Sep 18, 2011, 04:14 AM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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Hi ~ and WELCOME!! I've been divorced from a really controlling man too -- for 18 years. He ALSO bought a house very close to mine -- and proceeded to stalk me, call at all hours of the night, and be a total PEST. I ended up selling my home, and moving out of town -- boy did THAT make him mad! LOL 
I understand how you feel about him and your Mother. I would be hurt too!! During a particularly bad time in the marriage, my ex was telling my mother all kinds of things, and they were LIES. But my mother believed him -- and I was NEVER so angry as I was then. She SHOULD have defended me to him -- but she didn't. It took me awhile, but I finally realized that it didn't really matter what he said -- *I* know the truth, and so does God. That's all that matters.
Don't let go of your power -- don't let him TAKE your power. Get your power back, and don't let him live rent free in your head. You split with him for a reason -- and it doesn't matter if he still associates with your Mom. YOU don't have to associate with him, and that's what counts.
I wish you the very best -- hope everything gets straightened out. God bless & take care. Hugs, Lee
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