I am very skeptical of T's who attempt to practice therapy by text. Or by email. In my experience, many people completely suck at proper communication via the written word, and it's usually twice as bad when the text from when they email, and email can be much worse than writing a letter or a statement.

Sky is right, if he really meant what he said then he's a quack. I believe it is possible that he was trying to be supportive, but his intentions exceeded his aim, like my puppy when she was trying to get the whole potty training thing down. But trying to speculate on what he meant by what he said, that's impossible.

Instead I'd like to tell you that I believe very much that people can change and get better, especially with the proper support and resources. Please continue seeking the kind of T that would be best for you.

Anne