Hi pinkpony! Sorry you are feeling so bad.
I think 30 years of experience or no doctors are human and this is one of those times when it's more about the limits of the doctor than the limits of therapy or working on yourself to heal you. Doctors get frustrated like everyone else and come up with these pronouncements. But you should absolutely, absolutely not take it as a statement on you. What he was saying was more about his ability to help you, than you.

I have heard doctors say this before, that you "need to live with this," and it hurts a lot. You must have been in a lot of pain to reach out to your doc and I want to send you a hug even though it probably might not help, ok? But just remember that this moment will pass, it is not everything. Life has so many ups and downs. It is a pity that your doctor decided to pour salt on the wound and i hope you guys can figure out a way to actually improve things rather than keep feeling life is so difficult and painful.

Good luck! There is hope for you ok! Keep posting and keep fighting!