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Old Sep 18, 2011, 01:10 PM
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His words really really hurt, because they were proof that he doesn't think there's any chance that I can live happily.
Nope, he didn't say that. He said you can continue to live unhappily, but he didn't say that was the only option for you. Maybe there are changes you can make with the help of a therapist, a psychiatrist, your family and close friends, etc. that will help you live more happily. I'm not trying to defend your doc, as I think he gave you a crappy reply, but I don't think he said what you say he did.

I do think it is inappropriate of him to text a former client about such important matters. Texts (and emails) can so easily be misconstrued, as has happened here. I think you should be contacting a current provider, but you are the client and not the professional, so you may not know that texting a former provider will probably not be helpful and may exceed the bounds of your present relationship with him. Plus, you may have nowhere else to turn so you gave this a try. (Good for you for reaching out to someone!) But your former doc is a professional and he should know that he should not be texting you, especially the words he did, which could be misconstrued, and at the very least, are NOT helpful.

What can you do to get some support in your life--people who can help you now? Have you ever seen a therapist? I think it might be really helpful to have a therapist who you can work with you on making your life happier.

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Originally Posted by pinkpony
If those are the only two options death is preferable.
Just remember, he did not say there are only two options. It sounds like you are trying to use his words to help you justify choosing death. Please, don't! You deserve a happier life. I hope you can find a therapist who can help you with making your life what you want it to be. In the mean time, if you feel unsafe, can you call a crisis line for immediate support? Is the doctor you texted a psychiatrist? If so, he may be able to give you some names of therapists you could contact. (If you want referrals from him, though, can you try calling rather than texting?)

Best of luck to you, pinkpony. I hope you can find a therapist. Until then, or in any case, can you try to hold your own vision for a happy future in mind? And don't pay any more attention to that text!
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