Perhaps Carrie it is our own ingrained ideas of what "society" would say. From the time that we are born, we are told things like, "first impressions count", and "what you do reflects on me"..........
People can't seem to be themselves because actions or behaviors are deemed inappropriate or bad. It's a shame that we are so concerned with what others think, instead of reflecting on how we feel about ourselves.
Sorry, just had to interject there.
Take care.......{{{{{{{{{{{{Carrie}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}