I am probably completely ignorant of this whole thing but, to me, she just sounds like a 6 year old? Like you were saying, consistent parenting can have that same effect on any child, whether diagnosed or not. I don't know that I have ever seen a 6 year old not scream or hit their parents at least a few times (swing at, not outwardly violent or dangerous). Maybe I am missing part of your post?

I think that putting a label on children takes away from a true childhood. To me, it sounds like she just needs a different parenting style which doesn't mean (to me) that there is anything wrong with her. I do like your marble idea. I don't like rewarding kids for behavior that should be expected of everyone. That's why I don't really understand the whole graduation from every other grade thing. I graduated twice. High school and college. Now kids have a special ceremony for wiping their @$$ correctly so I am in total agreement with you there.

I am glad that these tactics have helped you so far and I'm sorry you are worried about your disorder affecting your daughter. My only advice is to not look at your daughter as an acronym but as a daughter who just needs a little special attention. I am probably biased bc growing up everyone tried to diagnose me as ADD and tried shoving Ritalin down my throat. Nobody ever stopped to ask me why I was acting out or stopped to think that maybe I needed some counseling (my parents were going through a divorce).

I guess what I'm trying to say is that, age 6 (from my experience) is when kids really start to want their own stuff. They want to be able to do things. They want their own things to be proud of. And they are getting old enough to recognize these opportunities. All I really wanted was for my parents to show me a little specialized attention or simply talk with me about what was going on instead of fighting with each other and it ended up having me be spied on in class by psychologists etc...

I hope the progress continues and you get the support you need.