everyone's confrontations sound so nice and gentle. gah, my t does this every time I talk to him. too much to remember. Telling me to be more gentle with myself probably wouldn't even count as confrontation with my t.

One time in couples t, confrontation hurt but helped I think- helped me change how i was acting toward my then bf. More recently, t made a more gentle suggestion that i could do something similar w my Dad. In context of "taking my side" about a lot of other things related to my Dad, this suggestion from t seemed helpful. I was able to understand since it was the same as the issue with ex-bf.

Another time toward the end of couples t he was confrontational in a way that seemed mean... prefaced with the phrase "I hate to break it to you, but..." It seemed like he was trying to get me show anger.

I have plenty of posts about confrontational things about how I feel about my appearance. That wasn't really helpful.

More recently, it felt like he was being confrontational about something with my friend, but I didn't understand what he was getting at. He said he was in the depression with me. At the next session he said he was trying to help me understand my needs- (I think he meant what I was getting out of the situation)- so I could do more with the efforts I was making to help my friend. I'm not too clear what he meant. When I asked him at the next session, he had forgotten.

The last 3 sessions I've brought up questions about whether therapy is useful for me. That seems confrontational too.