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Sep 18, 2011, 11:15 PM
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Member Since: Jul 2011
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Originally Posted by salukigirl
I'll be the first to admit it. I refuse to accept help. I hate it when a guy tells me how to do something and I automatically view it as controlling. I take it to the extreme too. Someone telling me I can't do something makes me do it 10x more or harder than I would have before. I don't like depending on anyone. To the point that I went out and bought a car that I couldn't afford so that my dad would then have no financial connection to me. I stopped accepting help from my parents before I graduated high school and don't like accepting even birthday presents.
Well as a lot of you know I had surgery this past Wednesday on my knee and I'm doing it again. I am putting myself through physical pain to not accept help from people and I don't know how to put my ego aside and just accept it. What the hell is wrong with me? I have stitches in my leg and I act like nothing even happened. My bf tries to help and I won't let him. And the worst part....is I KNOW that I do it and I don't stop. Why do I view everything like this as a personal attack? How can I convince myself that not all offers of help are meant to be a sign of me being weak?
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Saluki,
Tell me I can't/best not/shouldn't, is a sure way for me to say [180 degrees the opposite]. I understand that completly!
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Hope you do OK with your leg healing. But I'll give you a lil' suggestion if you don't *180* it , LOL, tell peeps in a o so not confrontational way, to look t you as an adult!!, and to not assume you need some magical fixing by them!
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They may get a little " we don't mean to do that " response ? , But give the I understand and see you care , but I would prefer to ask when I need , rather than the blow you off for butting in my biz . Ya know?
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You're covering your world and doing the school/college thing , working , keeping bills paid , dealing with a relationship, [ that's alot on one plate ] . You are young and doing the do right !! :-) . Just let others know , you will hear them , but it doesn't mean you Have to Obey them .
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As everything in life heals? :-p So will your leg!
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