(((salukigirl))) - hi. i can understand you have been hurt and your resentment towards your father. however, not all men are your dad, and you are doing a disservice to yourself by applying your feelings towards him to all men (and, it seems, most women also). i have trust issues also, and it's an awful way to live. you have to learn to let your defenses down sometimes, at least a little. if people like your bf offer to help - especially as you are recovering from surgery - please accept it graciously even if you have doubts emotionally. how else will you learn to trust others?

i had knee surgery several years ago for a torn miniscus. i was in a lot of pain afterwards. the MD told me i could return to work in 2 days; i gave it 3. still, it was too early. stay off that knee and let it heal!

once a therapist told me, "you can trust people to be themselves." i have found it to be true. sometimes, what you expect when you trust people is your expectations for them and that can be a recipe for disappointment. however, it's best to trust them for what you know they can deliver based your knowledge of their personality and abilities.

i hope your knee feels better soon!