I do not view confrontation itself as punishment (eg. spanking) (for me, even writing that word is very distressing somehow - very silly). Perhaps because I am in a traditional confrontational field and I feel competent at handling confrontation from various parties. But I have recognized times where a therapist was seeming punitive or like they were yelling at me and I usually just ask if that is the intent and if not to please tell me because their interaction seemed punitive to me. In my (limited) experience, if a readjustment was made, we could proceed. In the case where it was not, I got rid of that t. I can punish myself for free and was raised by punishment experts - no need to pay a t for that.