Well, Posters, I have an update.

Since my last post, a few more things have happened. While sitting w/the Varsity players, he says, "I don't like that setter" talking about a JV player. The V girls say, "why?" He says, "because she's overweight." Really?!!! Who says that about a 15 year old girl? So this adult is judging whether he likes one of the players based on her weight?!!!!! Ugh! This past Sat, he said, "They're all a bunch of G**D*** losers," which was confirmed by the Asst Coach, and he shoved one of the players a week ago last Sat, which was witnessed by the girl's mother who told me about it. I was beside myself she wasn't in the AD's office the next morning! I asked if she would allow her English teacher to shove her, and she said, "no." Well, then.....???!!!

My husband and I made an appt w/the AD, which we had this morning. He was very professional, stated we were the first parents to actually come to his office in person, he said people have made comments to him at the games, but no "formal" complaints. He admitted "I'm not shocked that you are here." We explained why we bypassed the coach, told him of the other parents' experience after speaking to the coach and how he intimidated their daughter. (read prev post for details).

We told him of how our daughter had been mentally beat down, and her love for the game has, basically, been ripped from her heart because of this coach. I listed all of the names he has called the girls during the season and statements he has made. He was writing them all down. My husband expressed (while stating he knew there was a little bit of difference between athletics and academics) how this kind of name calling would not be tolerated if an Eng or Math teach were to call a student things like this. The AD agreed. I mentioned the part about the girl being shoved. He said he didn't really want to discuss what had happened to other players, if her parents wanted to come in about it, he would welcome them. I told him I understood, that I was not going to mention any names, but I felt he should have knowledge of it because if that ever happened to our daughter, he would know it had happened before. I reiterated it wasn't hearsay, that I heard it directly from the mother who witnessed it.

In the end, he reminded us this was his first year at the school and was still getting to know all of the coaches. He admitted he had already spoken to this coach about some issues and will be sitting down w/him, again, after our conversation. He let us know he would keep our names out of it. (I'd love to be a fly on the wall during THAT conversation.)