(((((((Lynn))))))))

I know that you have been struggling with this for quite some time now and your true heart is always about what the right thing to do is. And as someone in a bad situation I understand that personal struggle because deep in your heart it has been more about your children than anything else.

I would like to point out something that did work with you being able to reach through the pride in your husband to a place where he saw the importance in how his children feel as well.

I know that this is going to be very difficult for you Lynn, it truely is a big decision and I can totally understand how the prospects of being alone is for you. Even in the bad situation you were in there was some sense of safety for you and your girls via a roof over your heads and food on the table. And I think that you have pretty much been over the husband but not over the comfort and safety that you had once felt.

What both you and your husband have to continue to focus on is doing your best for the two children you both created and how to present the best way to handle themselves in a situation where they may not be truely happy. It is clear that you both love your children and they also love both of you. And they DO struggle with how you and your husband have parted ways, it IS uncomfortable for them.

As you already have learned your husband does respond when you discuss your children. So from now on you must keep that a focus for him and remind him that you both love the children and you both should teach them that if they are unhappy they do have an option to salvage their lives and find other ways of making a life for themselves. This way he will be able to keep his pride in the process and you can remind him that all you really want is a place for the girls to truely feel they can love you both and FEEL SAFE TOO. And that is really important that he understand that your children will NEED TO FEEL SAFE in making choices. Neither you or your husband will be able to control their futures and who they end up with, but you CAN show them that they can be strong and independent and will be loved by both of you.

Lynn, you do have a gift of knowing how to speak to others without rattling them.
You have been practicing this in PC a lot without really realizing it. Now you can truely put this talent into your own life. And we will be here to support YOU.

Open Eyes