granite, I agree, your letter was not mean at all. Do you think that if you express yourself that it is mean? I think this letter got you talking in session which is very good. She said that you can send a letter but you have to read it but it sounds like she settled for reading it anyway and it was very productive. Do you think that you interpret firmness as anger? Or do you think that you expect everyone to be angry with your because of the mother? and really they are not but you still interpret it that way (especially if you are scared)?